Red Dirt Liberty Report: Child Adoption Is Too Important

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Ordinarily, each week in this column I address something that I find important and that typically relates to my own experiences somehow or is just something I am passionate about. However, this week I am writing about a topic I am far more passionate about than probably anything else I have written, and it is something that is very personal to me. I was adopted at the age of one week, and I am extremely grateful for that, because it placed me in a situation that gave me a very good life that I likely would not have otherwise had.

Adoption is a true gift and blessing to those who are adopted, it is an incredible act of love and sacrifice for those who have placed their child for adoption, and it is a wonderfully blessed experience to the parents and family who have adopted the child. It is an incredibly important part of what can be great about humans on this planet, and it is something that seems sacred and essential to humanity. Adoption saves lives, and it improves the lives of everyone involved. This is not an article about pro-life versus pro-choice. This is an article about adoption and the salvation of millions of children.

UNICEF estimates that there are more than 140 million children in the world that have been orphaned by both parents, most of whom will be raised in group homes (or in extreme cases on their own), possibly neglected, without family or parents for the rest of their lives. This does not account for children in hardship circumstances that could be awaiting adoption. In the US alone, according to statistics in 2014, there were over 105,000 children in foster care that qualify for and were awaiting adoption, but only some 50,000 were adopted. Part of the epidemic of children not being adopted is due to a lack of interest from people wanting to adopt, but there also exists far too many legal restraints.

It is regretful that so many hurdles are placed in front of adoption by burdensome regulations and bans of different kinds. Both China and Russia have placed bans on adoptions, either to families of certain countries (the US) or banning all adoptions. The US and other countries have sometimes placed blockades to homosexual couples or single individuals to adopt except in certain circumstances. Courts have favored birth parents in removing adopted children from their families, which acts as a formidable fear of adoption by potential adoptive families.

The adoption process should be relatively simple. It should be a contract between two parties – birth parents (or a birth mother if the father cannot be found) or guardian, and those who desire to become the parent(s). There really is not much need for government involvement, except to ensure that children are being adopted into safe circumstances (i.e. they are not being adopted by some sick pedophile), and as is the case many times, that can even be handled by a third-party agency that is a private enterprise. The circumstances of the adoptive family should be considered by the parties involved and not by the state. In other words, if a birth family believes their child needs to be placed with someone who happens to be gay or is a single parent, then that decision must be made by birth parent or guardian. Only the parties involved have adequate information to determine what is best for the child.

The most disconcerting hurdles to adoption come from a sort of prideful motive of many nations to imagine a child being raised in another nation with another culture. These governments desire to maintain their culture within anyone born there, and are willing to sacrifice the well-being of children in order to attempt to gain those goals. Sometimes, nations use adoption policy as a tool of negotiation with other nations. What a despicable treatment of human life! These lines of thinking come from a fundamental misunderstanding of the nature of “family.” A child that has been adopted into a family is no less a part of the family than one born into it. It simply arrived by a different means, and therefore, the child is of the culture of that particular family. A child does not belong to a nation for any government to make such decisions. Adoptions should always be freely given for any two parties who are willing to enter into the agreement, regardless of where in the world those parties reside.

Adoption is far too important to place political goals into the mix. The lives of children are on the line, and giving them a chance at life with a loving family is a goal much more important than any sort of political goal or secondary motive. In order to encourage more people to adopt, there needs to be as few hurdles as possible. The rights of adoptive parents must be protected, and adoptions should be as freely granted as possible, with only the welfare of the child in mind. Social encouragement for adoption is great and necessary, but just as necessary is the removal of the state – as much as is possible – from the adoption process. It is simply too important for such hurdles.

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Danny Chabino

Danny Chabino has a background in operating small businesses. He has been involved in managing and/or owning the operations of multiple retail establishments, a sub-prime lending company, a small insurance company, a small telemarketing venture, and insurance consulting. In addition to these activities, he also has spent many years managing investments in stocks and stock options as a successful trader. He is the married parent of two adult children, living as a proud lifelong Oklahoman and a part-time redneck. Danny writes for the enjoyment and pleasure of sharing ideas and for the love of writing itself. His opinions skew libertarian, but he enjoys hearing open debate and listening to or reading of opposing ideas. As an odd confession, he personally detests politics, but enjoys writing about political ideals and philosophies.

6 COMMENTS

  1. I’m very very sorry for you.

    We are not lucky. We were not saved. We do not have be grateful. When you realize that, you can let go of all these lies you’re living and begin heal, so you, like so many adoptees before you, can heal, become whole, and find some real peace.

    You have to let go of the lies first. It’s not a fun process but it will be totally worth it when you’re done.

    Then you can write a blog that will actually do some good. This blog is one lie on top of another. It’s not your fault; we were all taught to believe this stuff.

    Adoption is based in loss and trauma. Period.

  2. I have considered myself Libertarian for decades. The ignorance in this piece is astounding.

    Human trafficking is real. Hence why I am Libertarian and not completely Anarchist. A “watchman” society needs to put a watch on those facilitating adoption. Countries like Russia, Ethiopia, etc have put bans on adoption due to trafficking concerns. There are rings kidnapping children and profiting from their sale through international adoption.

    Infant adoption is known for coercive measures known well in cultish machinations through groups like LDS and Catholic Charities.

    Adoption Trauma is real. Books like “The Primal Wound” and “Adoption Healing” would be a great place to start. Libertarians can’t afford to be so naive and ignorant on an issue that has potential to be destructive to the very core of another’s identity. There is a reason adoptees are 4 times more likely to commit suicide and are over-represented in mental health facilities. I’m not pathologizing adoptees. I’m pointing out that it’s gullible to fall for Adoptionland’s rainbows and unicorns. Interesting to say it’s “lucky” to lose all of your biological connections. If due to any other reason than adoption, the normal response would be “sorry for your loss”, not “lucky you”.

  3. Mr Chabino, the two previous commenters said it very well, but I would like to add this question: If we adoptees are so fortunate, why are we four times more likely to attempt suicide? From teens still living at home with their “forever families” to senior citizens, single or married, some with children themselves, rich or poor, we opt out rather than continue the facade of “as if born to” that you are promoting. Adoption doesn’t save, it kills.

  4. Every problem in adoption has been caused by private agencies doing unethical and illegal things because they want to make money. The reason those countries have closes thier doors to the US is because of our unethical practice of adoption and because of major abuses. Russia in particular was concerned with thier children being abused and killed by Americans. The laws and the price tags involved in adoption are created by private adoption lawyers not the government. It’s very low cost and sometimes free to adopt from foster care and the regulations are not that difficult. It’s the private agencies that cause the problems, because they have one top priority $$$$$

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